Monday, January 30, 2012

Fun times with the Cole's

In case you were wondering, the title of this post is very sarcastic!

I have had no time or energy for stitching for over a week.  I was able to finally relax a little and put a few stitches in my HAED yesterday but not enough for a picture.  Life had gotten in the way which I'm sure happens to all of us.

It's not fun here, or rather, it's not been fun but I think the tide has changed for the better.  (PLEASE!!!)  My murphy's law days did finally end and I only had one more incident on the day I last posted.  Boy am I glad that is over! lol  During those crazy clutzy days, I was also dealing with some major behavior problems from my oldest boy Logan.  Logan is Autistic and doesn't deal well with any change, let alone anything MAJOR.  Back in November, the principal at his school fired the newest ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) teacher and moved her students into different classrooms.  Logan's class received three of them.  It was chaotic but working in there and was actually starting to smooth out if it's possible to do so with 12 ASD kids in one class.  They finally hired a new teacher, had her going around to each class observing and making notes which was a good idea.  The problem occurred when they decided on which students she would receive. 

Logan was one of the kids moved into her room.  He had been doing so well in his regular room and the move was not good to say the least.  His way of letting us know that he wasn't happy was to hit, kick, bite, headbutt, rip or scratch at me.  My arms look like I got into a fight with a very large cat or bear.  I'm finally starting to heal but it wasn't fun at all.  I tried to tell the principal that this move would be a very bad one for Logan but I was ignored.  When I asked him to help me escort Logan to the new classroom (which happens to be on the opposite side of the school) he refused and instead asked that someone who was still dealing with car riders stop what they were doing to help me.  He has since refused to answer any of my e-mails and has been avoiding me at all costs.   This has got to be the most unprofessional behavior I've ever had to deal with when it comes to the school system.  Not only has he ignored me, but in the original face-to-face meeting, he lied to me on all counts on why he would need to think it over on not moving Logan.  I know he's mad because one of my original e-mails I went to the person in charge of ESE for the county.  I did this because I knew he had lied to me and I also knew that this would be the outcome.   Apparently, he doesn't like to have his authority at his school questioned.   If you can't be flexible in your decisions regarding students or you take it personally when someone questions your decisions, then you really shouldn't be dealing with children.   I could care less about the man, the only person I care about in this situation is Logan.  He's frustrated and upset and doesn't know how to communicate this so he acts out. 

On top of all that, my daughter decided she'd had enough of the bullying and disrespect from the kids across the street from us and she told them she couldn't play with them.  I had actually told her months ago that I didn't want the kids at our house but knew the parents would be nasty about it which is why I never said anything to them. (I just wouldn't let them play with them)  Marie took matters into her own hands and that weekend was even worse because of the nastiness from both the parents and the one child.  The mother came over because her daughter was in tears and wanted to know what the problem had been.  I was able to tell her that she is too nasty with my younger kids but she immediately got on the defensive and walked away before I could point out that the older kids were sick of her crap too.  It escalated to where the girl next door became their enemy as well because she still wanted to play with my kids.  The mother refused to let the kids from across play with the girl next door.  This is the same woman who yelled "Get that kid of my grass!  I don't want any of them over here!" to the two year old who got away from the woman who stopped in to speak to me on the same day.  Really???  He's friggen' two, get a grip you nasty piece of work.

The mother next door was pissed off because of what happened.  She had warned me a couple of months ago about how the other mother would react.  She had the same issues but was friends with her so didn't want to say anything to her.  I'm sorry but disrepect and bullying are not tollerated in our house no matter if the kid's mother is a friend or not.  I hate this kind of crap, especially when the adults make it worse.  I feel sorry for them all, okay, maybe not the parents from across the street but the kids.  Perhaps if the parents would teach them to respect other people then none of this would be happening.  Also, let's get real here.  No kid is perfect, nor is any adult so please be open minded when someone tells you that your kid/kids aren't being very nice.  We'd all love to believe that ours are perfect little angels but in real life......   I know how my kids are and I'm the first person to reprimand them if I feel they've disrespected someone.  I'm also the mother who asks how her kids were when they go over to their house just so I can be sure they are behaving.  Some people call me anal but I'm just making sure they treat others as I wish to be treated. 

Okay, I've gone on enough about the craziness and really need to get to cleaning.  Yuck!  I really do hate cleaning especially after a long weekend but as my mother used to say "the house isn't going to clean itself!"  I'm off to do laundry, pick up the playroom, vacuum and mop.  Hope you all have a wonderful week and have time for lots of stitching!


Shelleen said...

You did what you had to do for your child. That is more important than what the school system thinks. I am with you on parents who think that their kids wouldn't do "that" attitude. My ex best friend was like that which is one of the reasons she is an ex lol.

Mylene said...

I really feel for you about the school, hope they'll be improvements soon for the sake of Logan.

I am with you about the kids, much as i love my kids i know they aren't perfect and i better want to hear personally if they are behaving bad so i know what to deal with, but i agree lots of parents here too doesn't bother at all which is very frustrating!

stitcheranon said...

I have worked with young people on the spectrum and I find it hard to believe a non-expert has so much power over the experts..I hope your son settles soon. I know how hard it can be.
Good luck also with the neighbours. I understand how important it is to have your kids learn what is respectful and what 16 year old son was praised for being the most polite of all his proud mother here!!!!